A mommy I want to be like

May 4, 2011 by Cara Bailey
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I was recently asked if I am like my mother. There is an easy answer to that: I wish!

My mother is confident, organized, hard-working, tall…

I’m more rushed, less organized, much less put together, a lowly 5’8.

By the time she was 24, my mother was married, had me (the oldest of four) and had opened her own business. That business was our family’s mainstay over the next 20 years.

When I was 24…  *grasshoppers chirping*

My mother offers pretty big shoes to fill — literally, she has huge feet — but also figuratively. She raised three children on her own when my dad passed away. She later remarried and added another kiddo to the crew. And she did it all with perfect lipstick. Nothing frazzles her.

If times were tough, and I’m sure they were, we never knew. She somehow juggled kids in band, ball and her own business (in later years, two of them). I tried to be a working mother for one year and had to quit before I completely disintegrated.

I would like to think that since she is the mother that taught me everything I know, I’m something like her. In some ways I think I am. She’s pretty level-headed, I’m the same. There’s not a lot that shakes either of us. Family means a lot to her. Me too! Her generosity is immeasurable. I’m trying to work on that area.

But we’re also very different. Neither of us wrong, just different. I hold onto things, she gets rid of more stuff than Goodwill can hold. I am patient to a fault, she is stricter. She listens to country, but I’m working on that! There might be an Adele CD in her Mother’s Day stocking. (Mom, if you’re reading, make a Mother’s Day stocking.)

I feel bad sometimes because I really can’t come close to measuring up to her. I will never be as creative as she is. I’ll never be able to build a deck like she can do. Let me tell you, the lady knows how to operate a saw. I’ll never be able to keep my house as clean as she can keep hers. But she gives me a great pinnacle to reach.

She also has 25+ years of experience in the mommyhood. That’s a lifetime of wisdom away from where I am. I am so thankful to have her as a guide, the most amazing reference material anyone could need.

“Mom, do you think he’s too big? Too small?”

“Mom, I just found the grossest thing in his diaper, look and tell me what it is.”

“Mom, he keeps telling me no. What do I do?”

As I grow into my mommy shoes, I have faith that my mancub wont be a total mess. Afterall, my mom taught me everything I know and I turned out OK, I think…

I love you Mom!

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5 Responses to “A mommy I want to be like”

  1. Katy BrownNo Gravatar says:

    I want to be Sara Busse. She’s the best mother I know.

  2. RachelNo Gravatar says:

    @Katy – ME TOO!!!

  3. Rachelle MorrisonNo Gravatar says:

    Cara, as said many times. I am so very proud of you and to call you a friend. Your mother sounds a lot like mine, and I find myself saying the same things to my children. My mother passed away in 2005 and I miss her as she was not just my mother, my mentor, my voice of reason at times, but my dear friend. She is the one I shared my hopes, failures, dreams, goals, and even though she has been gone for 6 years, I still find myself picking up phone to share things with her. So many things I wanted to share with her. Cherish your mother and learn all you can from her. One day, all these same sentiments, Bhodi will feel and say about you. You have given him and yourself the ultimate sacrifice — your time, your energy, your love. I am proud to call you a friend and am proud to know you. You are an incredible mommy. No need to try to fill your mother’s shoes, I am sure she would say you can fill them easily. I am quite sure she is incredibly proud of the incredible young woman you are. Have a great day and thank you for sharing your feelings.

  4. Debbie ClarkNo Gravatar says:

    Wow very good I’ll have to say something about mine, my mom was the smartest person I ever knew, but I never knew it til I was grown. She had 13 kids, lost a daughter when I was an infant due to biliary hypertension (she had the first saphenous graft in Ky.) then 2 sons to Duchennes MD and my younger sis (Iwas number 12) had Downs, I would lose my mind, she almost did, how she kept from it I’ll never know, My dad passed when I was 15 and she still had 5 at home including 1 with MD and my sis. Get where I’m going? Am I anything like my mom? again I wish, I could never handle all that, I have trouble with a confrontation at work RIP MOM til we meet again you are my hero

    • Rachelle MorrisonNo Gravatar says:

      Debbie — thank you for sharing! Our mothers and their mothers were cut from a different stock than us that is for sure. We freak out when internet is down and we can’t send an e-mail. :-) Think how much more we have than our past generations and how much more “stress” we claim to have, etc. Appreciate all moms!!! Happy Mother’s Day to all moms, present, past, and future!

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