This week, I’ve seen a lot of links on social media sites that say something like, “What Americans can learn from French parenting” or “Why French parents are superior.”
Maybe you’ve seen “Are French parents better or do they just spank more?“
My personal favorite from Today Moms: Sacre Bleu! Oh, the berets…
The reactions have varied. One mom may have felt a little threatened and said, “Oh no they didn’t! Frenchie mom better not say she’s better than me!”
Another reaction: “I actually like this. The rigid rules set good boundaries.”
Here are some of the rigid rules:
- Children should say hello, goodbye, thank you and please. It helps them to learn that they aren’t the only ones with feelings and needs.
- When they misbehave, give them the “big eyes”—a stern look of admonishment.
- Allow only one snack a day. In France, it’s at 4 or 4:30.
- Remind them (and yourself) who’s the boss. French parents say, “It’s me who decides.”
- Don’t be afraid to say “no.” Kids have to learn how to cope with some frustration.
The big eyes! Of course! That has to be one of those things that women don’t tell to other women, like what a sitz bath is. All among the best kept secrets of motherhood.
I just want to know what Kanawha County (and beyond) mommies make of this. Do you think those rules make sense? Do you find one country has better parents than another?