My boyfriend’s grandfather died last week, and at the funeral, my boyfriend shared some sage advice he received from his beloved Gramp when he went away to college.
“Always remember your name.” It meant more than to literally remember your name. It meant to remember who you are, where you came from and what you stand for.
It was a beautiful and touching memory. And it got me thinking about what kind of wisdom I might be imparting on my own daughter. What thing that I tell her will she carry with her the way my boyfriend carried his grandfather’s words?
It reminds me of the movie “The Help” when Abilene tells Mae Mobley: You is smart. You is kind. You is important.
That’s good stuff.
So far all I’ve got in my repertoire is “You get what you get and you don’t get upset.” And I stole that from Pinkalicious.
I hope that my actions will speak just as loud to her as any phrases I might share.
I hope I’m teaching her that even though life doesn’t work out as you planned and really bad things can happen, you have to go on. And it’s up to you to make the best of it and to love like there’s no tomorrow.
I hope I’m teaching her that you have to work hard for what you want in life. Sometimes you have to stay up late and function on little sleep. You have to make sacrifices. But you do what you have to do to take care of your family.
I hope I’m teaching her to be confident and to speak up for those who can’t. I hope I’m teaching her to appreciate her blessings and to pay them forward.
But I’d still like a few good words to back me up.
What are some of the phrases you use with your kids or that you remember your parents or grandparents saying to you? Share, please.