To have or not to have?

November 20, 2012 by Carrie Cherry
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School Thanksgiving lunch. Photo by Brad McElhinny

Last week was the Thanksgiving lunch at my daughter’s elementary school. It was scheduled for Thursday and I wasn’t going to be able to make it because I had to work that day, in Huntington. I couldn’t get back in time. (Major working mom guilt there…) So my mom was going to take my place. (Thank God for grandmas!)

But wouldn’t you know it? Julia’s school dismissed an hour after it started because of a power outage (I swear I am cursed.) The lunch was rescheduled for Friday, a day my mom wasn’t available. But I managed to rearrange my schedule so I could go.

I’m super sensitive to the fact that Julia only has one parent and I was terrified of her being left alone in a sea of families.

It turned out that she wouldn’t actually have been alone. There were lots of kids dining solo. And several of them were devastated that their mommies or daddies weren’t there. A little girl at our table cried, sobbed really, for her parents. A teacher tried to comfort her.

It broke my heart.

It’s got me thinking that maybe these school luncheons aren’t the best idea. Sure, it was nice to pop in on Julia’s day. But what about the parents who can’t get away from the office? Their kids don’t get to feel special. Instead they feel sad and alone. What’s to feel thankful about that?

What are your thoughts?


2 Responses to “To have or not to have?”

  1. katy brownNo Gravatar says:

    I agree. I witnessed something similar at our school’s Mother’s Day breakfast. I ended up ignoring my own daughter because I was too busy paying attention to the kids without a mama that morning. It was heartbreaking to watch the kids stare at the door, hoping someone would walk in.

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